When she cheats
Author: Melissa Lahti
August 15, 2012
When I think of cheating, I picture a man cheating on his significant other. I am pretty sure this is the case for most of us. In all actuality, women cheat more than we think. It is just a subject less talked about, mainly because men are less emotional about it than women. I recently saw a news story that was talking about the fact that women cheat more than we want to admit. This got me thinking about all my friends. I can easily think of several of my girlfriends that have cheated at least once. That’s just the ones I know about.
As I think back I find it very interesting as I realize that the men in these relationships had the same intuition that most women are famous for. They started displaying similar behaviors to what we would expect for a woman. As a distrusting person usually begins to snoop, question everything, and get angry over the littlest things.
When a man, or a woman for that matter, suspects their spouse is cheating, they are probably right 90% of the time. Of course there are always those control freak men who question everything a woman does regardless. Then there are the men that cheat and suspect their wife is doing the same just to ease the guilt they feel for what they are doing. When you have a normal loving relationship that has been established for a long time, and you all of a sudden get that eerie feeling that something is not right, it’s probably not.
Once a person gets that feeling they start to investigate. Mainly because they cannot bring themselves confront their significant other. They want to be sure it is absolutely true and also deep down they don’t want to believe it themselves. There is no worse heart sinking feeling than to find evidence that your spouse is cheating on you.
Once the evidence is found there is no going back. As you’re standing there with your heart is pounding, your hands shaking, and arm pits sweating, you feel as if you just ran a marathon and all rational thought goes out the door. This is where it becomes a problem for a man who is finding out about his wife. Since men and women think so differently, women tend to be more rational, men tend to react without thinking first. Men are also naturally more aggressive and could easily hurt a woman without even intending to.
I think it is very important that if you find out your spouse is cheating, remember to keep a calm mind, make all decisions rationally, and never hurt a woman, even though it feels as if she just ripped your heart out and stomped on it. Go talk to a friend for advice before making any decisions and don’t forget that cheating doesn’t always have to be the end of a relationship. People can be forgiven.